Tuesday, 17 July 2007

By DR.D.Pane,MA

Pestalozzi Kindergarten,Cibubur,East Jakartal

 
Recognize symbols and understand the concept of numbers can be stimulated from an early age through math games. The most important game here it should be simple, interesting, not boring, but exhilarating and even performed together. Here are some types of games that can hone and improve children's cognitive abilities in arithmetic:

- Play Balls Made of Wood

Children two years will not be bored playing balls of colorful wood diameter of five centimeters a hollow center which should be arranged vertically on the five pillars of varying height, so that similar skewer. As he put the ball into the milestone, the child will count: "One, two, three and so on". This toy factory made, can be purchased at toy stores. Game by using these visual aids can improve the concentration span of children and sharpen memory, so he's good at counting things will be anything from 1-10.

- Sorting clamp clothespins

Prepare a colorful clothesline clothespin and provide the former ice-cream container medium (1 cup for one color). Clip a clothespin different colors on the edges of the remaining clothespins.Teach  children to put them  into each container according to color. When finished, help your child to count the number of clothespins in suitable color and look for the most content.

- Fishing

Prepare a short ruler of wood, U shape magnet, colorful cardboard, string, paper clips and scissors. Cut the cardboard to form a variety of fish of various sizes that have been traced. Slide the paperclip at the mouth of the fish. Tie the rope to the end of the ruler. Tie the free end of the rope to the magnet U. Teach your child to fish and fishing as long as they like..Later  let him finish, ask him to show the fish caught and aggregated-separated according to color, ie red, yellow, yellow, purple and blue. Count in number and show the largest and smallest fish, then teach them the  concept addition and a modest reduction. Magnetic lure and the fish can also be purchased at toy stores.

 - Playing in the Garden Detective

Previously we put the objects in the garden such as water hoses, shovels, hoes, etc. flower sprinkler with a variety of colors are clearly visible. Begin play by giving us clues bit by bit, so that children start looking. For example: What are the long yellow yes .. "," Shape long ... "and" circular like a snake ...", until the child find the answer. Then compute the shared objects found: "One, two ..... etc.".

 - The game concept of "Big" and "Small"

Prepare a large shoe box and a box of fruit rather small. After that provide objects of different sizes, such as ice cream containers big-small, large cans of shoe polish-small, large doll-small, large rocks, small, leaf- big-small leaves etc.. Put all the objects on a tray. Have your child take an object (large or small) and insert large objects into a small shoe box and into the fruit box. Then count how many and how large the object is small and when taken one or two remaining how etc.

 - Find a partner

Provide a pair of socks, a pair of tongs clothesline, a pair of gloves, a pair of tablespoons or teaspoons, a pair of forks and fork to eat cake, a pair of plastic cups etc..Put all these things in a big box, command a child looking for a partner, then count how many pairs.

 - Palm Who?

Take a pencil and paper / white poster board, place the child's palm facing down with fingers spread, and then traced with a pencil. Have the kids cut copy, thus forming the palm of his hand. Do the same thing to her feet or palms of hands and feet father and mother or sister or anyone who was nearby. , Command the child to indicate where the largest and the smallest, and then have the children develop in this order and counted.

 - Games Pouring and Measuring

Prepare a tablecloth, a large plastic basin, rice, pasta or dried spaghetti, macaroni shell shape, spiral, nuts or seeds, etc.. Then provide the means of games such as sand shovels, buckets, sand trucks, funnel etc. that have been washed clean. Let your child pour and measure the full. Ask in doing mounds of large and small (mountains and hills), then fill a truck with rice or beans, pour the rice with a shovel etc.. Then count with bumps or groups of things that happened.

 - Grain Sorting Games

Rinse the seeds of dates, walnuts, beans and others, then dried. Provide a cookie cutter or cardboard egg. After that, ask your child to sort out the grains according to specific categories, by color, shape (oval, round, flat etc.) and large-size and insert into the holes or where the egg cookie cutters used. When finished, explain what you just did the little "" That was a new sister group the objects by color, shape, there are brown, black, oval, flattened, rounded, etc. ". Then count the holes together where the most content.

    - Teaching the Concept of Zero (O) with Fruits

Provide any fruit, oranges, bananas, guava or bark as much as 50-10 pieces and put into a container of fruit, then take the one-one distributed one to a brother, sister, father, mother and those around them, and count with the remaining eight, seven, six, five and so on until they run out, no longer remaining in the container of fruit. That's the concept of zero, and show the symbol of zero, then one again and so enter into his container.

Games on interesting is not it? Wear your own or make teaching aids are cute and colorful, so that the children loved it. Mathematics Numeracy lesson with simple does not have to be boring, especially when the tool peraganya done and then played together, as he joked and laughed. Well, Good luck!. (Dr.D.Pane / Pestalozzi, Cibubur)

English Version

Sunday, 15 August 2010
DR.D. Pane, MA



Have you ever met a kindergarten  child aged between 4-7 years old whose face is very innocent, sweet, polite like a little angel, but actually very manipulative, misleading people by lying and telling things that are not right to get what she wants and can be very rude?.

A child like this exists in our kindergarten, she's a girl a sweet, sassy, ​​smart singer with dyed blond hair like a Barbie doll, always be polite and until there are events that show the true face, at the Birthday party and then Bakery before she could not control her emotions and can not get what she wants, because it must comply with the collective agreement, then she will yell, scream, roll around, as if treated roughly by an adult in this case the teacher or baby sitter then accompanied her, a negative attitude behavior that we never knew before, so we were all in kindergarten to be very shocked and devastated. When returning home, this child talks about things that happen in school according to the version and fantasies, so that direct parental scolding the above mentioned teacher / Baby Sitter without asking the school first.

Actually, the signs are already there, that the child is manipulative, because she had often affected the teacher, another teacher and me to always defend her, because she's telling the lies until there is one event that proves she was lying and another child who spoke the truth and she should excuse herself. Since then, we the teachers  now more vigilant and not easily fooled by tricks or strategies that she's done to get her will. This causes the child was getting out of control and beat her friends in class.

Hence both the girl's parents called to come to school and consult with me. Since I actually Educators, not a psychologist and the child is already out of control, then I encourage parents to bring their child to a parenting psychologist. Not only because of wrong education at home but also the child is not emotionally intelligent, but I caught a deeper psychological problem. Father and mother working outside the home and return home in the late evening. This family is still living at home with parent, sister-in-law and brother in law of the wife. Grandfather is very dominant and determines everything and this child his beloved granddaughter, so she listened to her grandfather more than her own  parents. In addition two years ago her little brother was born and this child is no longer so central of attention. According to  recognition of their parents, when her brother was a baby, she  hurt her brother, due to jealousy .. So this child was forbidden to approach her brother .. The situation is very complicated indeed.

Well when they've made an appointment with a psychologist acquaintance of mine, this child's parents did not show up .. fact that his grandfather came a few days later and immediately get angry with the homeroom teacher. Grandfather whom I was consulted and luckily he can understand and willing to cooperate .. At first, he intended to remove children from school, but could accept my reasons so that children can still attend school. Hopefully the child can be changed by behaving more positive. Actually a real problem also her parents, but they are not allowed to consult a psychologist at the school ... We will try to continue to monitor and provide reports via a daily journal book .. not easy ..

The second case occurred in a boy aged 4 years , has also indicated manipulative traits. His mother  also confirmed and told that her son often lie and tell things that are  not true, for example, was beaten by the mother, so often scolded her husband, for alleged acts of violence are not ever done. This kid at school is also very sweet, cute and polite.

The converse at home, he fought his mother and a frequent cause of both parents fight and the mother seemed very depressed. Both parents work and are very busy with their work. This young couple also live with in-law and brothers-in-law of the husband. The child is  set up to fight his mother, that poor boy. His mother  has repeatedly asked her husband to move out of parents’ large house  to  a small rented house, but her husband since her parents' oldest child was not allowed to get out of the house. The boy's mother has recently released her work, in order to concentrate on educating her son  at home.

Well when I suggested to the consultation, only the mother  who came and father did not want to accompany. At the time I gave a copy of the articles about manipulative children, the more the mother found much the same thing there is to her child .. Well a few weeks the child was in school, but after that the child does not go back and parents could not be reached anymore .. I often think of the boy, what would happen if the child grew up, when the attitude of his behavior is not corrected from early on ??...


Such cases they will be motivated me to seek out and recognize the character of children who manipulative. By reading various writings and experience so far, I can conclude that the manipulative child is not easy to identify and difficult to repair his behavior attitude, if both parents work and are too busy and hand over full custody to the Grandmother or Grandfather- or even Baby Sitter .. Why is that?? Let us refer to my article below.

In children who manipulative when they  want something, strategies or tricks that are used are not clearly visible or hidden by giving warm hugs, kisses, cries that evokes pity and promises are like truly out of the depths of their heart, so that the adults in this case  parents / teachers or baby sitters are often fooled and do not have the heart, and ultimately deliver what kids want and break the rules of its own.

-How Parents can know that Their son or daughter  be  Manipulative?

Not only adults around this child affected, but your own as  Parents /
Teachers often are not consistent with the previously approved agreement and
often allow children to make it pleases.

That your child is not a little angel with her/his  sweet smile and a hug
warm, but a child who "sucks" and disturb those around them, when the child
started to yell at you and scream or even roll-tumble in front of a toy shop
for example, and being watched by a lot of people, other examples are also carried out in schools based on reports from the class teacher, when she/he  wants something.

In other instances, these children can pretend to be sick to get attention of  their father
and mother and freed from the task of cleaning their  own rooms and toys or lying
talk about things that are not right for passing the buck to others, often
unwilling to admit mistakes and behave similar to getting what they want or to
avoid tasks that should be finished, but they  did not like ..

- Here are the things we have to REMEMBER:

• Children are NOT born with essentially manipulative behavior.
• They learn the tricks of the manipulative WITHOUT ACCIDENTALLY, "trial and error" and through OBSERVATIONS in the surrounding environment in which they interact.
• The child will always remember, when he cries, someone will surely come closer and
serve him.
• When he was malingering, he was freed from the task of cleaning his own room and toys
or other tasks.
• Next by LIED, he will not get reprimanded or scolded and sympathy.
When these acts performed repeatedly and successfully, then this kind of behavior will become a habit.

- What should be done by  Parents / Teachers?

• Observe children and note whether there are patterns of behavior like this on your child?
• Get to know WHEN the child to try with this manipulative behavior and what STRATEGIES / TRICKS  used in the above mentioned occurrence?
• When you have discovered the pattern, just find out WHY the child do something like that?.
• Does he/she do it to avoid warning / penalty?
• Does he/she  do these things without getting something he/she  wants?
• Does he/she do this to certain people only?
• Is this behavior just to avoid the responsibility given to him/her?
• In this case DO NOT just focus on the child alone. See also the surrounding environment and yourself and your spouse or caregiver who provides opportunities for children to being manipulative?
• Have you also been accidentally gives examples of manipulative behavior attitude  to your child, because you have to REMEMBER, that children learn very quickly from these examples of  attitude behavior in the home and surrounding environment. Unconsciously children  imitate the attitude of behavior  of adults at home and its surroundings, in this case the parents and loved ones.

- OBSERVATION AND GET INFORMATION objectively and dig as much as possible. Look for information about WHEN, WHY and HOW your child's behavior indicates an attitude like that. When you
prepare yourself well, you help your child to eliminate the  bad habit. In one situation you do not understand WHY the child behave like that, then the two-way communication should be done. You must dialogue with the child to find out the problems.Handle their roots seriously and a good cooperation between parents and Schools should be established, so that behavior like this can be corrected ..

- When you begin to master the situation, try to always be consistent with the rules you
make your own and make the child to understand why he did not always get what he
wants.. DON’T  make compromises to allow the child to get his wish that
by saying: alright , this time only ". When you do this, then your efforts before
become useless and you have to start from scratch again.


- Ask SUPPORTIVE  PEOPLE around him with the same attitude, do not in contrary.. You  must notify teacher, nanny, chauffeur pick inter, grandparents on both sides, relatives and friends who visit to do the same thing. Explain honestly, that your child is very manipulative, when in fact he was not a sweet little angel, instead often "sucks", "shameful" by crying or screaming in public, when his will is not obeyed.

- When you're teaching children not to be manipulative, always explain to WHY your child to touch these things and WHY son had done wrong and harmful others, so the request was not granted. Make the child understand why the decision was should be taken. Involve the adults around them, without exception.

- If the child is always trying to escape from the sense of responsibility, make a list of tasks for the  child and
other family members. Then check with which the task is already done with good and what is not .. The task list was made in consultation with all members of the family.


- The list is then hung in a place easily visible as in the outboard in the fridge door or
in addition to a desk. Reassure your child to carry out daily tasks and they will be fine. When
children or other family members are not doing a good job, then there are penalties for ..
punishment of children. They should not watch the  most favored  program on  TV for
several days or a week for instance (not physical punishment !!!).

- Improving the child's manipulative attitude is not easy and can not  be INSTANT, requires
a lot of time. Your child will develop positive attitudes and behavior  and the can forget the  manipulative attitude in the long term. With patience and understanding of many parties, you'll see results and be happy to see the child again is NOT  selfish, NO Obtrude, DO NOT BE AFRAID OF LIABILITY, HIGH disciplined,
EMPATHIZE and have high enough confidence. He/She will never lie or cry out or scream to achieve his/her desire, so that he/she can be accepted by either by the surrounding environment and are not excluded from the association.Be patience with your child !.

(DR.D.Pane at Kindergarten Bilingual Pestalozzi, Cibubur ,East Jakarta August 15, 2010)